Don’t Get Stuck at Anger: The Seven Stages of Grief When Faith Dies

Faith is very personal. It’s something which people hold very closely – a fiber of their being. Have you ever lost something or someone dear to you? Loss is never easy, and it isn’t something that you usually just “get over”. In fact, I’m sure most people have heard of the seven stages of grief, which states that, when someone loses something or someone that they love, they go through a very specific set of phases: Shock and Denial Pain and Guilt Anger and Bargaining Depression, Reflection, and Loneliness Upward Turn Reconstruction and Working Through Acceptance and Hope For those
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What is love? (Baby don’t hurt me.)

Frequently, theists will claim that certain phenomena like love are evidence of the divine. However, as good skeptics, we understand that love, like all other human behaviors, has a neural correlate. As humans, we are social creatures, and so love serves a purpose. It bonds us within the parent-child relationship, the mate-mate relationship, and the in-group relationship. Studies such as this one demonstrate the biochemical nature of love and how that biochemistry effects behavior. Moreover, some people appear to be “wired” for deep connection with others (empaths and altruists), while other people lack this “wiring” (sociopaths). Love is explainable in
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School Year: Dress Codes v. Equality

It’s that time of year. We’re getting ready for school, and that means shopping. It also means double checking the school’s dress code, to keep your new student out of trouble. In doing so for my son, who’s starting high school, I came across a few notable lines. I challenged those lines directly with the assistant principal. Below, is a screen shot of the original dress code, my correspondence with the administrator, and the outcome. Hi Linda, My child is starting at [your school] this year, and in shopping for school clothes, we consulted the Dress Code located here. [link
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Questioning God

Christians may claim, when confronted with a non-believer who left the Christian faith, that the non-believer was never really a Christian in the first place, thus invalidating the non-believer’s experience in order to maintain the solidarity of the Christian group. Indeed, the Bible states in Luke 8:13, “And the ones on the rock are those who, when they hear the word, receive it with joy. But these have no root; they believe for a while, and in time of testing fall away.” In other words, if life’s ups and downs cause you to question the effectiveness of your faith to
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Question the Scales: Why Christianity, Right or Wrong, is Important

“Christianity, if false, is of no importance, and if true, of infinite importance.” – C.S. Lewis I’ve heard the above quote on more than one occasion while interacting with believers. It usually gets thrown out in a context wherein the believer is trying to diminish the beliefs, or lack thereof, of atheists. “Why do you fight so hard?”, they’ll say. “If God isn’t real, then it doesn’t really matter. You should just let people believe anyway.” In my opinion, they couldn’t be more wrong. If Christianity is true, then I’m in agreement with C.S. Lewis: it would be of infinite importance. If
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